How to Interrupt Someone Politely

Interrupting someone can be a conversational faux pas, but sometimes it’s necessary.

According to Jefferson Fisher, a Texas lawyer and author, interruption is warranted when someone is stating something factually incorrect. It’s about correcting facts, not arguing opinions. The key is to do it politely.

Be upfront

The best approach is to acknowledge the interruption. Phrases like “I know I’m interrupting” or “I need to interrupt” can diffuse defensiveness. Fisher explains that this acknowledges the action and avoids appearing to assume your contribution is more important.

This principle applies to social situations as well. Instead of abruptly pulling someone from a conversation, announce your intention. Fisher illustrates this with the example of saying, “I need to take Angela for a minute,” which provides context and understanding.

Clearly stating your intentions is generally helpful. For instance, instead of slamming a door during an argument, stating that you need to leave the room clarifies your actions. Fisher emphasizes that “When you claim it, you control it,” and voicing your intentions demonstrates confidence.

Use the person’s name

People respond positively to their own name, making it an effective way to regain attention, even during a monologue. In a meeting dominated by one person, Fisher suggests repeatedly using their name – “Angela,” “Angela” – to gently interrupt without directly fighting for the floor.

Pass the mic

When someone has been talking excessively, avoid aggressively interrupting. Instead, try to redirect the conversation to someone else. Fisher recommends acknowledging the speaker’s points (“I hear you on X, Y, and Z, and I’m going to follow-up on your points”) before inviting someone else to speak (“Now I’d really like to hear from Jessica on this topic”).

This is a courteous way to shift the focus, especially when someone is struggling to conclude their point. Fisher likens it to providing a gentle exit strategy.

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